A family member of mine has recently been overtaken by old age and is currently on their deathbed. I went to the hospital to see her, and seeing family members around the bed telling stories and sharing moments was really magical. Often I sing and play music at weddings at funerals, and while weddings are beautiful ceremonies, funerals are a lot more meaningful in terms of people getting together.

Usually, there will be around 10% of people that don’t show up to your wedding, but if someone important in their life dies, most will show up. In fact, at weddings, there’s a lot of personal animosities where people are offended that they weren’t part of the wedding party or didn’t make it as a bridesmaid. There ends up being lots of politics at a wedding. But at a funeral, people get together regardless of their differences and their backgrounds. Death can often teach you about life more than life itself.

Often I’ll ask my clients, “what if you had 6 months left to live? Would you be present in the moment?” People begin to list off their answers, but then I intercept with, “what if you had 6 weeks left to live?” Then people start to think harder, and I continue with, “6 days left? 6 minutes? What would you do? Where would you go? What would you say?” The reality is that we don’t know when we’re going to die, but what you do with each present moment will ripple into eternity. How you live, how you share your talents and gifts, that will live on in others.

As Buddha puts it, if you share your candle with 1000 other candles, it doesn’t diminish the power of your candle, it lives and breathes in 1000 other candles. There’s a lot of darkness and pain in the world, and I’m just here to serve and make the world better by eliminating minor crises in my daily life. People get upset from minute issues like waiting too long in line at a Starbucks. We need to remember that it’s not how long you live, it’s how you live. Unfortunately for many, it takes a near death experience to put things into perspective and live in the present moment. What someone said to you 5 years ago doesn’t matter, so love deeply and give compassionately. Shatter the belief that you aren’t wealthy, and I don’t just mean in terms of money. This abundant mindset will help you eliminate the stress of small issues.

A great quote about death by Virgil is, “Death twitches my ear, ‘live’ he says, I am coming”. No matter how long you live death will come, so live now. There is no cure for birth or death. Imagine being given a certain amount of energy at the beginning of your life, and that energy will last until you die, and every time you share the love you get 1 more point of energy, but every time you’re angry 2 points are taken.

Your life is empowered and extended by sharing love, and shortened by bitterness and envy, so what kind of person will you be? How you arrive is your choice. Let’s go back to the imagery of a family sitting around a deathbed, but this time instead of people, it’s your talents and gifts sitting around the bed. Those strengths are there because you kept them contained, and when you die, they die with you. What’s the point of having talents if you don’t SHARE them with the world? Don’t let them die with you. You have a song to sing, a store to open, a book to write, a life to change. So live it, breathe it, and walk it.

To your continued evolution, live it up with POWER, PURPOSE & PASSION!


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Anthony Cheam

Speaker/Author/Life Coach/Personal Trainer


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