The SECRET to Long Term Relationships

Updated: Oct 19, 2018


Today is the last day in our 9 day podcast series, and we’re talking about continually upgrading your relationships. Whatever challenge you’re currently facing, just know that the greater the challenge, the greater the opportunity for growth. Think of it this way, when you’re at the gym, you do resistance training to grow your muscles, so your muscles expand by demand. Well the same lesson can apply to life, the universe sends us life resistance (problems) that we push against to sculpt our character, meaning our minds expand by demand. As an example, parents often times help their kids as much as possible and protect them from potential hazards, not realizing that kids need to struggle in order to learn, grow, and be more prepared for life. Life wouldn’t feel nearly as rewarding if you didn’t work to get what you want.

When it comes to constant growth, you’ll hit a plateau where you feel like you’re not growing, but it’s these moments in which you grow the most! Ken Blanchard, the author of The One Minute Manager, talks about the 4 steps to peak performance and being your best version. The first step in your journey is the enthusiastic beginner, so this is when you say things like, “I’m going to start a business!”, or “I’m going to lose 100 pounds!” and you’re excited about your goals.

Step 2 is the disillusioned learner who stops and realizes that their goal takes more time and effort to get done than they initially thought. This is where most people lose motivation and quit. If you maintain discipline and follow through, then you get to step 3, which is the reluctant contributor, and this person feels like they’re not getting closer to their goals as they don’t see tangible results. More people quit here since they don’t realize that most of the work is happening internally, which is why they haven’t seen physical results yet. But if you stick with it, get mentors, better strategies and continually build, then you make it to step 4, which is the peak performer. It may take months or years to develop this level of skill. I’ve been learning and working on my daily success habits for years, so I understand the process first-hand.

There are a lot of peak performers who plateau, in which case they would need to build newer and better strategies to advance. On the other hand, some peak performers produce so much that they don’t stop to appreciate what they’ve accomplished and how much of a difference they’ve made. Stop and ask yourself what you can be grateful for right now. Expand your perspective and realize how advanced this country is and how often we’re surrounded by opportunities. You want to practice gratitude regularly in order to grow, and eventually see the world from a lens of love and compassion.

In terms of relationships, look at the first 8 steps in this series, and pick one step to study and expand on. Take this lesson on a journey of self-discovery and live from this principle. Once this becomes a habit, pick another lesson until that becomes integrated in your life, and so on. If you follow through with this practice, people will come to you and want to be your friend as you will be a magnetic and compassionate person to be around. One of the greatest journeys you can take in a relationship is remaining humble, grateful, and graceful as you move into the different facets of your life and the dynamics through which you live.

To your continued evolution, live it up with POWER, PURPOSE & PASSION!


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Anthony Cheam

Speaker/Author/Life Coach/Personal Trainer


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