Today is day 4 in our 9 step series to upgrade your relationships, and we’re talking about emotional mastery. Today is an emotional podcast for me as my mother passed away a few days ago, and a week prior my grandmother died. They were sudden losses surrounded by love and family, and I hope I can share some insight with you. We’re going to go over 3 main ways to improve your emotional intelligence. Mastering your emotions doesn’t mean you’re positive all the time, as there will be moments where you feel like the world is coming down on you.

The first step to self emotional mastery is feeling the full spectrum of human emotion and disassociating from nothing. People often say there’s beauty in pain, but it’s not the suffering that’s beautiful, it’s the love and human connection that comes from other people in the process. Death brings people together, and I’m now much closer to my siblings than I was before. When it rains it pours, but then comes the sunshine, and I have faith that after this process I will be stronger.

The second step is to train yourself on a consistent basis to be in peak state. This way when the tough times finally come you’re ready. Meditation, prayer, fitness, incantations, good people, and positive books have empowered me to continue on despite the despair. It’s important to surround yourself with people that are positive, powerful, cheerful, and admirable, so that when tragedy comes you’re supported. Self-compassion is greater than self-esteem because self-esteem is only good when things are going good, but self-compassion will cheer you on no matter what you’re going through. Show yourself some compassion and take care of yourself and those around you.

The third step is asking for help. Don’t ask for help because you’re weak, ask for help because you want to remain strong. I’ve been asking for a lot of help lately and have received unbelievable support. When you reach a threshold where things are terrible, you’ll likely fall into default destructive habits like food, drugs and alcohol. Identify the problem and get some help rather than choosing not to see another way. We stay in destructive relationships because that’s what’s familiar to us, it’s all we know. Identifying a problem and finding a solution takes strength.

If you’re not on the right path, find someone who is and model after them. Determine their emotional behaviors, patterns, habits, and everything that makes them tick. A mature emotional master will shorten the period of time between making a mistake and correcting it. There are so many times where I was worried people would judge me for having addictions, but once I asked for help they made me feel understood. Don’t try to have a hero mentality and think you can do it on your own, ask for help. Feel the emotion, own it as yours, and live it and breathe it. You’d be surprised how much helping others when you’re down will help you. There’s a quote by Rumi that says, “in order to break open a heart, it must first be broken, more love can pour out from a shattered heart”. Every situation offers the opportunity for growth, it’s up to you to take that opportunity.

To your continued evolution, live it up with POWER, PURPOSE & PASSION!


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Anthony Cheam

Speaker/Author/Life Coach/Personal Trainer


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