What is your LOVE LANGUAGE?!
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Today is day 2 in our 9 day podcast series to have better relationships, and the topic of interest is love languages, based off of the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. We’ll talk about meeting people at their level since it will make your relationships revolutionary and energetically charge you, and also to make more deposits into your love account than withdrawals. You can’t give to others until you give to yourself first, otherwise it’ll just be draining for everyone. Give to people what you know they value.
There’s a saying that goes, the new health care is self-care, but very few people are investing time into their personal development. Even when they do work on themselves, they don’t do this efficiently. For example, instead of working on yourself anytime you’re feeling down, change your perspective from yourself to helping others, which automatically makes you feel better.
The 5 love languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, gift giving, quality of time, and acts of service. We all have these 5, but there will be 1 or 2 main languages for each person. Men typically want words of affirmation, as they want to know they’ve done a good job, whereas most feminine women want quality of time in their relationships. We’ll dive more into masculine and feminine energies in the upcoming podcasts. If you see the world through your own lens, you assume others have the same lens, but this is far from the truth. If your language is gift giving and you go around giving everyone presents, some people would be insulted since they’d think you’re trying to buy their love.
Would you make your partner feel deeply loved from your lens? Not unless you have the same language, which is why it’s so important to know your emotional patterns and the patterns of those around you so you can have harmony in your relationships. People often tell you to treat all of your kids equally, but they each need love in their own way, they have their own language, so understand your kids and meet them at their level, and once you deposit into their love account, they’ll want to reciprocate and love you back.
Furthermore, you could be with someone physically, but if you’re mentally far away, they won’t feel nearly as loved. Your presents don’t equal your presence. We have all this technology to communicate but we’re not present with the people around us. Our means of communication have become more shallow and distant, to the point where people don’t know how to talk to their loved ones. So please put the phone down and listen.
And it’s not even just with people, your pets have love languages as well, which are often physical touch and words of affirmation. They need to feel your love. Love is so powerful that it physically cures illnesses, which is interesting because when we’re sick, we’re told to stay away from people so that we don’t get them sick, when in reality feeling loved will make you feel better sooner.
So in terms of practicality, there’s a few love language tests you can do online, and I encourage you to try this test and discover more about yourself and your love languages. Even outside of the test you can fairly easily figure out what your language is, simply by questioning times you felt really loved, and how you received that love. I’m telling you something you already know, I’m just turning on the light so you can see more clearly. Once you know yourself you’ll start to be more curious about how the people around you operate, in which case try talking to the 3 people closest to you and ask when they felt really loved by you and get to know their rule book. You can even ask them to try the online tests. Ask them something like, what are 3 things I can do to make our relationship virtually unbreakable? Communication and understanding are integral parts that need to be taken care of in order for a relationship to be bulletproof.
To your continued evolution, live it up with POWER, PURPOSE & PASSION!
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